What Love Is, and Isn’t
Love doesn’t demand perfection. Love doesn’t pretend that we are perfect, or that others are perfect. Unconditional love means noticing and acknowledging the “flaws,” and loving others and ourselves anyway.
Love is about wanting the other person to be happy, wanting to help him/her achieve his/her goals and purpose, to live the life s/he came here to live and be who s/he came here to be. Love isn’t about expecting the other person to make us happy, to help us achieve our goals and purpose, to help us live our lives and be ourselves. That’s attachment, not love. Usually a combination of both love and attachment is present in any relationship.
Contemplation about Love
Begin with deep, calming breaths and, if you wish, some basic concentration-meditation techniques. When you feel calm and ready to take the next step, with loving gentle kind inquiry, contemplate your relationship with a significant other. Look for your attachments and your loves in that relationship. This is a self-inquiry, rather than contemplating the actions of the other party. It is important to have the tone be one of kind, gentle, loving curiosity. There is no hint of criticism or judgment, just the desire to clearly see the truth of your way of being inside of this relationship. Notice agitation or other emotions as they arise, then return to basic concentration and deep breathing, and re-establish peace.
This is NOT about beating ourselves up for our flaws! It’s about noticing how we are inside of relationships – with others and with ourselves – and loving ourselves anyway. Loving ourselves means we can see the truth, and be glad we see it rather than sad we have it. We are eternal beings on an eternal growth path, always working at finer and finer levels. We won’t ever be “done” with letting go of attachments. We will simply be working at finer levels, letting go of smaller attachments.
If you know how to work with energy, as you notice attachments be open to allowing energy shifts to occur, but don’t make that the goal of this particular exercise. Later on, we will work with shifting the energy to be more fully who our souls truly are. This is about coming to terms with and loving yourself, exactly the way you are in this moment.
Consider including your relationship with yourself, your Guides, or with Source in your contemplation. If anxiety arises or if you lose your ability to be present with open insight in some other way, simply return to basic concentration-meditation and re-establish peace.
Don’t overdo the contemplations; you have all the time in the world. There is always tomorrow. Until we meet again, walk in light, live in light, be light. BE who your soul wants you to be. Much Love!
Lynn
Lynn McGonagill, Founder and Teaching Channel for the Lightworkers Healing Method, and author of The Lightworkers Healing Method: BE Who Your Soul Wants You To Be
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